Esther Perel says our fantasies are like an X-ray of our erotic selves.
For once, someone is telling you: “Don’t judge; get curious.”
- Shame suffocates desire.
- Fantasy can help couples understand what turns them on.
But not every fantasy is a friend.
For trauma survivors, some fantasies are wounds in costume.
For stressed Black professionals, fantasy can be an escape from reality instead of a way to enrich it.
So the question isn’t “Do I have fantasies?” It’s:
“Do my fantasies—and how I act on them—serve my relationship, my purpose and my God, or sabotage them?”
We help you sit with that question in the Relationship Readiness Masterclass, unpack its impact in the Matchmaking Readiness Audit, and live it wisely inside the 1,000 Couples Challenge.