You hear Esther Perel say:
“Love wants closeness, desire needs distance.”
And you think, “That explains so much.”
She’s right that:
- Domestic grind can kill desire,
- Curiosity and play keep relationships alive.
But as a Black professional, you’re already living with risk—racism, finances, family.
You don’t just need excitement. You need safety and aliveness, not one instead of the other.
So your real question is:
“How do I choose someone who can build a stable life with me and co-create a passionate one?”
That’s what we design in the Relationship Readiness Masterclass, test in the Matchmaking Readiness Audit, and showcase in the 1,000 Couples Challenge.